How to Include Children in Your Wedding Ceremony

Including your children in your wedding ceremony is a great way to unify your new family. It’s important to consider the best ways to let your child (or children!) participate in your special day. 

Depending on your child’s age, there are quite a few ways they can play an active role in your ceremony. Be sure to consider your child’s personality and interests beforehand. Some children are shy, and may want a more behind the scenes role. 

There are several ways your child can participate in your ceremony. Your child can be a bridesmaid or groomsmen, which is best for kids that are at least 10 years old. You can also have your child serve as the ring bearer, and children can also walk you down the aisles. For young children, consider letting them be a flower girl. 

You can also have your child serve as an usher and help guests to their seats, or hand out wedding programs. Children can also read a passage during the ceremony, or lead the wedding procession. If both parents have children, you may want to consider a family unity candle ceremony. Another idea is to have your children and spouse’s children exchange tokens to represent family unification.

Definitely talk with your children and ask if they would like to be a part of the ceremony, and if so, what they would be interested in doing.  

Make sure your children are prepared for their role. Include them in the rehearsal. On your wedding day, come prepared. Make sure your children have a snack and are comfortable. Bring an extra change of clothes just in case, and consider assigning your child a helper for the day. It is a good idea to make sure your kids know where you will be during the ceremony, so they know where to find you.